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Chapter 4 (continued)
Same-Sex Ambivalence (cont.)
Reparative Drive
Detachment, which may be considered a repression of the need for attachment to other males, creates a natural urge within a person to undo the detachment.3(p6) The isolation that a detached person creates for himself does not overcome his basic need for intimacy with other men. Rather, it makes the need stronger.4(p107) Nicolosi suggests that “every male has a healthy need for intimacy with other males.” Normally, this need is met in the early relationship with father and then in relationships with peers.14(p34) When intimacy and identification with other males are blocked by defensive detachment, these needs create what Moberly termed a “reparative drive.”3(p10) Moberly asserts that this reparative drive is the basis of homosexual impulses—homosexual desires are attempts to “make good earlier DEFICITS” caused by the detachment between the boy and other males.3(p6) This concept will be discussed in great detail below in the section “Sexualization.”
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DEFICITS: a shortage, or lack.